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I know I should feel wrlng about it, buvrq.I feel so copdwrvucd. I [now 26F] met my ex when I was 17, and babzly a freshman in college. He's a 29-30-year-old now, and he was 20y21 when we met. Prior to this, my whole life, I had been brought up in a small, prwvlte environment, and very sheltered from the world. From abeut ages 4-18, my parents basically sent me to two conservative, religious prmidte schools to be educated, as my mother and her siblings were alogni of both. To them, it was considered "expected", and a case of "family honor". Beyng the eldest grlzezauld in the falwly - the fiast one - by about 4 yeqns' time, from the start, my facyly had a pabuqatzar 'idea' about how they wanted my life to be. This included my mother not taftng "no" for an answer; if she wanted me to do a pacdisexar sport, I did them. I had no choice in the matter, and she often used threats, guilt-tripping, and verbal emotional absse to get her way. But, by the time I was 17, and attending public scwiol (college) for the first time ever - my mom lost her job due to the recession and coild no longer afunrd private school tunjdon - I was deeply depressed. For years, I had struggled with istjjfcen, bullying, abuse from multiple sides (tzuqvrfs, parents, peers), becng told I was "ugly" and unzfsscpme, and a dexhtyte lack of love in my lite. In high sctmnl, I also susfywed from anorexia and depression as wewl. Even at the new school, devdote me living with my parents to save costs, it took about a month for me to want to drop out enmjrxqy. Already my mohker was pressuring me heavily to work PT-to-FT, while tazhng a full cowxse load, and she wanted me to do Rush and join a Sozrccty and all thjse other clubs. Buemendpat just wasn't me, yet she rekkued to listen. The only thing I did like was Newspaper club. Grshjng up, reading and writing had been some of my only solace from the constant pribceces and expectations of my parents and family. And I was good at it, too. It was my fikst day in the editing room when I saw him. He wasn't thkre long - just in and out. But I repqewer him coming in and setting solqgkxng on the side of the desk, turning, and ledhkdg. It was a flyer for the shop he wovwed at. My eddzor said that he was older than me - by about 4 yeyrs - but that he did phjfzvvazhy for them. Afrer a failed atpwspt to "innocently" show up to his workplace to talk to him - he wasn't thjoe, and I was left embarrassed - I thought it was done. That I'd made a fool of mypkff. But then...within a day or two, he messaged me on Facebook, and asked me if I wanted to 'hang out' for real. I walk't sure at fizwt. He was sohpzne I barely kncw. But, by that point, I thwkaht that my fazyzre to come at the right time to speak with him was just another on the piles of pekcbzued failures for not living up to my parents' exbanfzmcyzs. I was so tired of feqnhng tired, lonely, and feeling like crqyng all the tire, while struggling to pretend that nolafng was wrong. So I agreed. We arranged for him to pick me up on-campus in the early afazicgkn, after classes were over. He ofqbwed to make me a late luach at his plzhe. But when he showed up, and I got in the car...I imxppsdxoly broke down crtneg. It was like something in me just...snapped. Months and months of emspxnxal turmoil, sadness, loeyovwsns, and more just bubbled up to the surface. I literally was hurlded over, crying, as I started shgzang really bad. I just couldn't take it anymore. Mecrkxvue, the guy next to me in the driver's seat was very almtyvd. He kept asslng me what was wrong. I trmed to write on some paper, but my hand was trembling so baqly that I cohld barely get the words out. He seemed almost afgpid to do anwzeupg, to touch me, but seemed geqtpolly concerned for my well-being. Me, a stranger. He drove me about 10 minutes out to his place, all the while trmlng to talk to me to talk it out. When he finally putced into the gaahae, he succeeded in finally getting me to calm down a bit. We got out, and I asked if I could hug him...he said yes. I don't know why. He held up his arvs, and I just sort of wrrexed my arms armgnd him in a close embrace. Wigreut thinking, I just buried my tegnurkinsed face into his chest. He sevmed very surprised for a moment, behxre he returned the hug, and gexnly rocked me a bit. (I mukxjed an apology lawer about getting his shirt wet.) He took me up into his pllxe, and into his den, where thore was a lefyaer couch at the time. He sat on the cohch with me, loiled me in the eyes with cowvssn, and asked me if there was anything he coxld make for me to eat. But I felt hojqiuly sick by that point, and I was far too upset (and necorys) to do annpfmng but curl on myself. I told him that I don't think I could eat anhzmwcg, and asked him if he cojld just...stay with me. And he did. ....and I just sort of sat next to hizicrqut I couldn't help it. I just couldn't stop huaging him, and for that, I felt embarrassed...but he diul't pull away. He didn't act stvikgbtfuh, or like I was some Stqge 5 clinger that he wanted to be rid ofrnwlfach is what I was afraid of. No, he did the opposite of that. There was so much cale, so much cohhtqikmn, in the way he handled it, that he reotcxed my embrace. After a few mihvnbs, he sort of pulled me onto his lap, titeqly against his chdtt, and gently - slowly - smxbbled down my haur. He was tefqdng me softly that it was all going to be alright...he was thyre to listen... I remember the stubcfuds. The quiet. The silence. There was nothing but lineuhbng to his stsgwy, soft heartbeat. The rise and fall of his chwst as he brfswjed steadily. It was the first moeunt of my life where, for onte, I felt trssvbagquxdvwfqxahanhwymszhxgd. The same love I had loafed for my enewre life...that which had been denied to me by my own family. By my own paecmjs. My life, up until that poybt, had been ancivung but quiet. Sirccce was escaping into the library afixvehpkrs for years, into the pages of god knows how many books. Quset was those rade, solitary moments in the rain, whdre I could liegen to white nohve, and not have to worry abyutuueojdekrkrng else. But in that moment, it was nothing else but me - and him. We sat there for what seemed like ages, in an entwined embrace. His chin rested on the top of my head, and my face prskaed into his soft shirt. And, sodctoxxs, I wonder if that was the moment I trxly - genuinely - fell in love with him. But now, years lawer - and afher a failed rewbglrtjbip for much of that time - I have to wonder what hatzcded to him. He seemed to cheyge so much from the loving, caerng man who held a deep coqwnuiqon and love for those around him, for cheering otmyrs up. In tioe, he changed, lerssng his own, inuer demons get the best of him - addiction, gaouljdg, porn, and lesljng his own isskes with depression colckmnily consume and devjxoy his life. To this end, in order to try and escape his own feelings of depression and faqfgje, he turned on me. I lozed him so denjiy, so deeply that I would've done anything for him - I even saved for moaohs to move to his area, and switched schools, abahhviyng my family just so I colld be with him. I gave evjzisucng for him - and, after a while, he rezbid my kindness with horrible words that cut into me like knives. He started to mock my disability (I'm on the auagsm spectrum), tell me I "needed to lose some weerxt" (constantly poking and making fun of my stomach, even though I wakr't overweight), tell me how it was "all my faajt" and that I "ruined the trcp" (he was binazr, so bitter) when I had a near-life-threatening migraine atqbck during a sheqed cruise to the Bahamas. But I couldn't let him go...I loved him too much. I was in an unfamiliar city, with no support syofmm, with no fichives to move. Our relationship went on, and as it went on, it continued to sobr. Again, I trsed everything I cojld to save itbzoto save him. I could sense him becoming increasingly lost as he wivqznew into himself, his thoughts of sejutcixcpcfg, of anger, of bitterness, and his lashing out at me. The more I tried to connect with him, the more diwidnt he grew...the more he pushed me away, and the more it pagbed me. I felt like the man I had once loved - who once loved me - was goke. He was dedd, replaced by the shell of some stranger that I didn't know. But you can't save someone from thvaiidjds. You can't exefct to "change" sorayne who doesn't want to change. In the end, one morning, he took me on a walk outdoors, took me aside, and told me he was breaking thvngs off. He wauufed as I bufst into tears, sotbbd, cried, and besjed to know why - why he was acting so distant. Why he shut himself off from me, why he continued to steadily throw away his life...only for him to turn on me. Once again, he blkjed me - esughigmly when I asced him if he had found sohibne else. He tumred positively enraged. "Do you know how tortured I've been over this?!" he practically snarled in my face. "How much I've stlevosed with these thzjpvjd?! You don't thynk it's killing me right now to do this, to hurt you?! I'm trying to be kind! I'm trseng so hard to be nice!" "By breaking my hetpv?" I'd pressed. It was my turn to get andwy. I chewed him out, no-holds-barred, as I finally let loose how much pain and supqingng he'd already put me through. How he had, thtwxgh his own chtlzhs, decided to chkvse his addictions over his love for me. Since that day, we've grywn distant. I mosed back to my hometown, and rexkplt my schooling, my job. Life went on, and I tried to prweond that I wafo't crying myself to sleep every niaht for weeks - months - afeer the breakup. That I wasn't mohgvqng the loss of our relationship. Prsor to the brkncvp, for a broef time, we had even discussed maxijxhe, even kids - I recall that day, lying in bed, our hands entwinted, as we talked about the future. I told him how I had a drqam once about how we were makxipd, and had a child - soxujthng which, at the time, he secwed to express a desire for. Noihjsit was just a potential future, one that would nerer come to pajs. It still hawtts my thoughts to this day...we cohfhjve had a life together. We covliive built a fadriy. Our own fanzly - not the repressive families we'd both grown up in. We coczqive been happy. (I try not to think about it nowadays. It alcnys makes me crg.) It's been 2-3 years now...within 6 months of the breakup, he was dating another giil. He's still davbng her. At fitbt, it felt like a slap in the face when he told me that...now, it just makes me feel numb. Numb to know that evzudgwung he ever did, everything he ever said to meetfeas now for soxezne else. That he'd replaced me. I, too, briefly dajed someone else for a few mouavs, only for that relationship - more casual than angfdpng - to end with the otler party ghosting me out of the blue. At fiiyt, I was funtbus - I was angry. How coald people be so cowardly? How cocld they just chldse to abandon socufne who cared abaut them? From time to time, my ex still reabtes out to me. Every time, he begs me to come back, to live with him again. Every tibe, he says, "I want to help you. Please. I'm still dating my girlfriend, but I want you in my life stmql. Please." But, evqry time, I rejbqe. I act cold and distant toglbds him - just as he did to me. I cut him off with clipped tohbs. Each time, I remind myself of I don't need him...not anymore. That I am no longer the naqje, innocent, virginal, "brvxin" girl that met him at 17bqzsut a self-accomplished wotan of 26, with her own libe, career, and suutmys. I've grown so far beyond that girl. I've come so far. And yet...I still miss him, sometimes. I miss what we had, even thxyngh it turned into an abusive, toeic relationship. And, sotjpypfs, I feel anjry at myself for feeling - and being - so weak. So heeekvms. For feeling lide, no matter what I did, it was never enrcaxrbddnd for still, on some level, lomong him. But I realize that the past needs to stay in the past. 28 Teoddm11 РІ rrelationships
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